Today is #SpeakMyMind Day. Tired of being meek and quiet Asian woman. Today I shall be brave enough to say what’s on my mind.
Cathartic just writing it. In a way, the women tale of woe is rather similar to anyone of you who have ever felt this level of exasperation working in a society with double standards. A woman cannot be unattractive, or old, or too smart (for her own good). How many times have you been advised to “play dumb”? When you are angry it must be that time of the month hence you are cranky. If you unfortunately hold some power, you are likely to have slept with someone or killed someone to get there “corporate bitch”. You will be interviewed for your work, but the headlines will most probably read “She Has Broken Up With Boyfriend” “She Is Still #Single” “She Is Single Hence A #Lesbian“. This is amusing until it is not. Ok it is still #funny. I am still grateful I was born female.
But don’t you mess with mama. I am running a business not running for Top 10 Most Popular Award.
Don’t be mad, be prepared.
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We face our own male and female Donald Trumps everyday everywhere.
Question is, how to do a Hillary Shimmy when you meet one.
Be a game changer in your own way. You don’t have to change the world. You can start with yourself first.
- Remember you don’t have to win every battle. Sometimes in defeat, you gain more than in victory.
- Be assertive. You will never need to raise your voice.
- See the bigger forest, don’t focus on one tree.
- Always extend an olive branch, even to your enemies.
- There are no enemies. Just teachers.
- Share. Share your love, your energy, your wealth, your joy.
This picture was snapped 9 years ago summer school in Salamanca. The importance of education, Spanish, making friends from all over the globe and annoying authorities (see Professor’s face). Te echo de menos mis amigas. Even more so now when the adult working world I am in is rather disappointing. Nothing in school prepared me for the. type. of. people. I. face. in. the. course. of. work. Maybe on top of Maths and Science, we should make Philosophy a mandatory course of study. And everyone should learn 2 or more foreign languages. People should have a chance to study or live or work overseas for a considerable period of time in our life. It should be drilled into our brain that being kind is more important than being wealthy. And extending an olive branch is more gracious than screaming at each other. Everyone should read War and Peace. I am not any better. I don’t like myself either when I am in Singapore. That is the truth. I should not blame the city. I should ask myself why instead. My team looks up to me. They watch my every step and so I have to do the right thing. A good leader has to be a bigger person and look at the forest instead of focusing on a tree. So I can’t get mad. I can’t get even either. I just have to pray that each email I read will not break my morale further. Sometimes a good bottle of red wine help. Sometimes looking up from my laptop at the seaview in front of me helps. Sometimes taking a long hot shower helps. Whatever works.
I hope WordPress auto deletes post like this after 24hrs like Snapchat. Everyone always feels much better after 24hrs.
My sleep, like everyone else’s, is often occupied by not one but a montage of dreams. Last night I had a few random ones and as part of my self-inflicted therapy, I decided to write it down for the first time and see if they make any sense.
- Obama spoke to me “be kind, be useful”.
- I saw a musical starring my favourite comedian Julia Louis-Dreyfus and after the show I queued up for an autograph and she obliged. Her co-star gave me his number and invited me to call him.
- A doctor paid me nightly visits at home because I was ill. I did not feel sick at all. But he was awfully young and good-looking.
- I offered someone an olive-branch.
- I was supposed to meet someone really important and I did not have my make up on, and I felt doomed.
Oh well….maybe I am over thinking this. Dreams are remnants of the millions of insane thoughts in our head, and so I was told.
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