Show Me The Money

Charity auction on from 6-30 Oct. All proceeds go to the charity of each celeb’s choice. I pledge my portrait to the only secular crisis centre for abused women and children.

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Celebrate Excellence. Not Mediocrity

To me, there is no man or woman, only intelligence and influence. We should simply strive to BE ONE.  Be one who exudes grace, kindness and humour.

As I grow older and more confident, I like less and less to be defined by my gender, or for that matter, marital status.  “Do not ask me who I am and do not ask me to remain the same… Let us leave it to our bureaucrats and our police to see that our papers are in order,” Foucault reflects in The Archaeology of Knowledge.

Indeed there are many ways in life to experiment, to create or to discover oneself. What is crucial is to lift off the blinkers of unconscious existence and overload of social media to see once again the newness of the world. I cannot wait to explore, in reckless abandonment, what it means to be a survivor in this 21st century.

If being mad means holding on to one’s particularity, I would most gladly drown myself in melancholy. At times, the pain of being misunderstood can be too hard to bear, and the silent insistent poison of loneliness keeps me awake at night, wallowing in self-pity.

At times my ideals are overshadowed by the ugliness of reality, and giving up seems the only way out of all that chaos. Nonetheless I love life with a fierce passion. I continue to be so deliriously in love with life that I never cease to question, to argue, to seek, to spread the word, to write the truth and to dream my vision of the perfect world.

I have often stood before an unsympathetic and cruel crowd who, not listening, have been ever ready to cast stones of condemnation as I remain unwavering in my ideas. I am certain the depth of the disappointment has been mutual.

Like all love stories, expectations and promises have remained unfulfilled, and the vulnerable heart has been broken. I remain pessimistic and doubt I will ever be truly satisfied with the conditions of life, but that does not mean I cannot love it. I love life for all the freedom it brings, despite its lack of meaning and purpose.

Life and and all its imperfections are what make us human and delightful. Perfection is mundane. Imperfection can be as beautiful as it is painful.

These are some of the “imperfect”  people I love who are leading the way. When I look at these formidable six, I remind myself not to celebrate mediocrity, but excellence.

Power Women 4

Find Your Steel

When I was 19, a fortune-teller told me I would be a businessman when I grew old. I laughed in his face and replied “that’s why I never believed in fortune-telling you are hilarious. I only want to be an artiste. Always and forever.” If you are reading this uncle please know that I am sorry. Your prediction was spot on.


One more year to go. Enjoying the ride so much I do not want this to end. 21 years of service including my stint overseas. My friends did warn me that I would get too emotionally attached to places. Well I thought: “what you call chaos I call opportunity”–no need to search any further cos I found me. #LastYearToKickSomeAss #回忆总是美

VIBES cafe #styleXstyle opening soon at 1 Stars Avenue #03-01 Media Gallery. See you there.

40 Is The New Black.


I am turning 40 in about 7 weeks I am feeling fabulous.

It seems to me, life has only just begun. It is so exciting (and hectic) that I often find myself too nervous to eat. But I am constantly reminded, that I have to nourish myself with food,honey and water, or else I would not have the energy and stamina to keep up with the pace. So I entice myself with comfort food, such as my Nespresso Roma and Nutella in the morning, (yes I eat Nutella with a spoon sans bread), boiled carrots and broccoli for lunch, and a glass of my favourite red for dinner. As you can see, I prefer to always stay some what hungry. It keeps me yearning. And yearning gives me something to look forward to.

Honoured to be on the cover of Elle Singapore this month. It has been 11 years since I last graced Elle’s cover and I must admit, I do age quite well. More importantly, I have never been more comfortable with being me, flaws and all.

As I sit outside on my balcony, typing away, listening to the crashing of the waves, distant flickering lights of the ships beckon to me, my silent companions.

How lovely life can be.

sXs Anniversary video X 3

This year we did not celebrate our 2nd Anniversary with balloons, cakes, and confetti. In fact we did not even throw a party. Not even a small, cosy, quiet cake-cutting in the office. I found it a little disappointing, but that’s just me being emotional, and I shall not dwell any deeper.

Instead I feted this special occasion with a new conviction : that things have gotta change in the way we work and communicate with one another.

The irony is: I used to pride myself in cruising through my 6 years abroad in Paris, Lyon, Salamanca and Tokyo,  even though along the way I struggled to overcome all the different layers of cultural and language nuances. I was in foreign lands, speaking in Japanese, French and even Spanish and I got by, unscarred, and a little triumphant!

Here, back in my home for barely 3 years and 8 months, I faced more fights and misunderstandings than all my years overseas combined, despite all of us speaking a common tongue.

It is sad, undoubtedly. And it causes me to continue to miss my previous life in the cities I love. This conflict humbled me. I know I have to rise up to the occasion and set it right for myself.

Don’t finger point at anyone else. Point at yourself.





So honoured to be able to collaborate with Tangs for this socially responsible campaign #ShopForGood, where a $0.50 donation will be made to Community Chest for every receipt generated between 2 October to 2 November.

As a media figure and lead of, I have always wanted to redefine our commitment.

styleXstyle is not just about OOTDs, LOTDs, or any other selfies-of-the-day. Fashion should not only be about yourself. I would like to take this initiative to truly empower the new generation of young and affluent fashion community on styleXstyle to make more informed shopping decisions, and to use their social currency to reach out to a greater audience and to do good.

Baby steps.

Other partners will be inspired to step forward too and one day… it will be a collective effort to give back to society.

See you later at the launch party at Tangs Orchard from 3-5pm.

Let’s shop for good.

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