styleXstyle is a business, not a personal blog. I have to make tough, unpopular decisions all the time. If it’s all self-indulgent fun and games, then I don’t need to be here do I ?
Instant gratification? Not good enough for me. I strongly believe you reap what you sow.
There is no short cut. There is no easy way. There’s only hard solid work.
“Sail forth! For the deep waters only!
And we will risk the ship, ourselves, and all”
–my one and only Walt Whitman I memorize your words to death.
I am angry.
And I should not be. No one should be so angry. At least not for too long.
Nothing should be so difficult to navigate and if it is you are obviously not enjoying yourself.
When I wanted to pursue an education overseas you thought I was fleeing.
When I wanted to do my part for the country you thought I was showing off.
When I wanted to love you thought I was in denial.
When I wanted to quit you thought it was PTSD.
And now I create but you think I’m too fast.
Whatever I wanted to…you always thought otherwise.
Hélas. Allow me, even just for a moment, to be human and to be angry.
Let me be candid for just a minute and ask that perhaps you should try catching up?
I told myself to remember the sunrise at Macchu Picchu and the promise I said out loud to the vastness:
Live the life I have imagined!
Be contented with less.
I am enough.
Be unwavering but kind.
Like a mountain.
So honoured to be able to collaborate with Tangs for this socially responsible campaign #ShopForGood, where a $0.50 donation will be made to Community Chest for every receipt generated between 2 October to 2 November.
As a media figure and lead of http://www.styleXstyle.com, I have always wanted to redefine our commitment.
styleXstyle is not just about OOTDs, LOTDs, or any other selfies-of-the-day. Fashion should not only be about yourself. I would like to take this initiative to truly empower the new generation of young and affluent fashion community on styleXstyle to make more informed shopping decisions, and to use their social currency to reach out to a greater audience and to do good.
Other partners will be inspired to step forward too and one day… it will be a collective effort to give back to society.
See you later at the launch party at Tangs Orchard from 3-5pm.
Let’s shop for good.
My last entry was a good half a year ago. Told myself i need to discipline myself to pen down my thoughts more often. It’s healthier. Pent up emotions are too dramatic for my own good now.
I spent my 39th birthday thinking about the way I have been living each day. How “expectations” have been one of the source of my troubles. I have come to accept that we all come from such diverse backgrounds with different capabilities, it is stupid, really, if you expect to have your expectations met. Ha even that last line sounds silly.
Oh well, we learn.
Been watching Orange Is The New Black lately, and in the episode “I Am Not Ready”, Yoga Jones said this to Piper, and it really hits me.
“Do you know what a mandala is? The Tibetan monks make them out of dyed sand laid out into big, beautiful designs. And when they’re done – after days or weeks of work – they wipe it all away.
Try to look at your experience here as a mandala. Work hard to make something as meaningful and beautiful as you can and when you’re done, pack it in and know it was all temporary.
You have to remember that. It’s all temporary.”
This is why I love to indulge myself in a good story. It sets me right back on track.
Make the best out of all situations. While I am at it, make it spectacular. And then be ready to part with all of it when the time comes. Move on and not look back.
It is all indeed, temporary.
You need not do anything
Remain sitting at your table and listen
You need not even listen, just wait
You need not even wait, just learn to be quiet, still and solitary
And the world will freely offer itself to you unmasked
It has no choice, it will roll in ecstasy at your feet
The other day, I drove past Ion Orchard’s giant screen and I was filled with immense pride, because I looked up, and lo and behold, ourstyleXstyle bracelet ad was playing on the screen! And just when the light turned green and I reluctantly had to drive on, albeit at 20km/hr with my eyes still lingering on our anniversary bracelet on Zoe Tay’s slim wrist, another light bulb popped in my head:
“I SHOULD HAVE ALL MY COMMUNITY FASHION INFLUENCERS UP ON THE SCREEN TOO!! RIGHT HERE AT THE HEART OF ORCHARD ROAD!”
Yes! With a new found energy, I gathered the 2 youngest members of the team to execute Project Fashion Game Changers.
1. My new marketing genie, Rishon.
She mumbles a lot and half of the time my old granny ears could not catch what she is saying but she has been my pillar of support since the day she joined our mad house.
This is the girl who never stops surprising me with her Instagram photos, the girl whom I call oh-stylomilo-nananaz. She is petite and speaks in a very meek voice, but she has dreams bigger than Goliath, and she became one step closer to attaining them the day she wrote to me and asked to join our crazy family.
Here’s the thing, I lamented to the girls, some people are still asking me what styleXstyle is. It is indeed a very humbling question. But at the same time, it is to me akin to a “what is life” type of inquisition, not so philosophical of course, but somehow similar, because there is no one singular answer. Short of being pretentious and saying styleXstyle is whatever you want it to be, we are indeed not merely a fashion website. There is a lot of heart going on here in this tiny windowless office. We want to gather a group of fashionable people who are inspired and who inspire. We want to promote young and talented designers, fashion influencers, new labels, new brands, new acts. We want to nurture whoever is out there with a dream, because I believe that styleXstyle will be a jumping board to get you where you want to be. Eventually.
So here I am at my community page and I see many young people who constantly post your OOTDs on styleXstyle, who wear more character than clothes, more attitude than affluence.
I want to celebrate you.
And I want to thank you for making styleXstyle what we are today.
So what is styleXstyle?
styleXstyle is a unique blend of creativity and content, spirit and substance.
We are one giant runway that leads you to an escapade into self expression.
So allow this old Auntie Au to encourage you, to share your style.
There are many of us who yearn to be inspired, sometimes simply by knowing that there are many people out there who share the same passion for beautiful things.
Show me your OOTDs, show me who you are.
Let your voice be heard.